How has your week been? I've been digging out of a hole, from being both exhausted and behind on my todo list. (Last week, I had to deep clean my house all of a sudden due to a problem and it was a lot.) I am starting to recover and it feels like maybe I am on the other side popping out better than ever. My trust in hope for good things coming from the universe at large took a hit last week but now it's better than before. Healing truly is not a linear process. ... I've been craving talking about something. Today I wanted to pop in to revisit some ideas I have shared previously and strike up this question: How well do you communicate with yourself? I think this question is so key and it has been a focus of my entire life and work. Writing + Organizing My life felt like a mess by the end of college, I couldn't get over that my boss stole money from me. Writing in particular was the gateway drug. It was what helped me begin to listen to myself better. And I've come to appreciate the tool of writing more and more over the years. And organizing for me is a passion for similar reasons. Organizing my words was a natural next step as a writer. Originally, I got into organizing because I ended up writing every day for years, writing in such quantities I could not find anything any more. What I learned after a few years of embracing organizing is that it's really all about: valuing your ideas and making it so you can return to them later, aka basically talking to yourself in the future. Think about it this way: If you are disorganized, how can you trust that you can talk to your future self? That she will get the message? You can't so you might not trust her in the future to follow through on important things. Having a good relationship with yourself is also a part of having clarity, knowing what to do next in your life, book, business or creative practice. what the things you are creating want you to do next. (I talked about that recently in a recent free class I did on finding your priorities.) It's all about listening. Communicating. You + you. YALL THIS THEME IS ENDURING FOR ME This question of how well you relate to yourself is at the crux of everything I help people do. That includes coaching people to write for a book or business, organizing their ideas. Not to mention helping people heal from things like trauma and loss, which I always seem to do along the way of whatever I do even though I am not a therapist (I do have a masters in spiritual care though). I used to offer intuitive readings all the time and my intuition is spot-on, if I do say so myself. The truth is, I got good at it by learning to listen to myself. AND IT IS NEEDED My learning about this This topic of having a good relationship with ME has been an ongoing focus of mine for the last few years, and I've talked about it in various ways (as you can see).
And trying to have a better relationship with myself may never end. It's not over! RIGHT NOW. It is still my goal of the year to focus on my relationship with myself (yes, 2024 is the second year that I am focusing on this). And the status? Things are going well and I am learning a lot. And how to help myself feel good and motivated to move towards those important things I want done. SOCIAL MEDIA And finally.... Part of having a good relationship with myself is noticing what makes me feel off. In late July/ August I had to admit that all the craziness happening in the United State politically was getting me on social media a ton and thus more anxious and upset. I worked to get the heck off --which was good...of course, lately I notice myself creeping back on at times. It's hard to eliminate completely because sometimes dipping a toe in is totally fine and fun. And I have so many good friends and contacts online I don't want to lose, either. Anyway, this is not a new concept for me, but I need periodic reminders. Here's a clip of an email I sent in 2022 on the topic: ...... Are you spending a lot of time online, on your phone or social media? Does it leave you feeling bored or off? I noticed after I lost my father in 2021 that I was scrolling through social media and just feeling bad. I had to ask myself, “Is this helping me or hurting me?” What I learned: If I went on social media while sad, I could easily see something that would make me feel worse, or at the very least, it wasn’t really going to make me feel better. In this period of my life, distraction from my feelings wasn't going to help me process them. So I decided that when I feel sad, I will refrain from going on social media. I decided to take a break for about a month and removed pressure to post for my business. I just let people know I needed a break for a while. I kept up the practice of journaling when I wanted to go on social media. And then something changed!! After a while, in my microjournaling I noticed I suddenly wanted to go on social media for the purpose of creating and sharing. These days I am not as rigid about microjournaling and sometimes I find myself scrolling for 20 minutes and still feeling bored—but I will notice and be like, ok what’s going on here? What am I really wanting? I don’t always know what I want or what I need but stopping the scroll and doing something else usually helps me figure it out. I’m figuring out how to balance everything along side you, but I thought I would share in case it helps you! Next time you feel bored or off, try writing a sentence about how you feel, or asking yourself, “What am I really wanting or needing right now?” It is okay to be with those feelings even if you don’t have all the answers quite yet. I trust you will get closer to those answers in the end by being more connected to yourself. ... Hope this inspires you. If you need more, look into the resources below! Become the put together person of your dreams! so you can make faster progress on your writing or business projects... Thanks for reading! Lots of love, courage & mermaid vibes,
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